|"PoorES" by LaNicoya; Amy Lopez - Own work. Licensed under Creative Commons|
But it doesn't have to be that way.
I read a story not too long ago. The story tracked poverty in rural areas of Texas, Mississippi and the Great Plains.
These places contain some of the nation's 46 million people who live below the poverty line (below $22,050 for a family of four).
As I was reading the story, I wondered: What keeps people from living "the American dream?"
I did not grow up with a silver spoon in my mouth. We always had food (including plenty of Twinkies), clothing, electricity, running water, new clothes and plenty of love around our house, but we were not rich. It wasn't until I was much older that I realized the sacrifice my parents made each year to make sure we had everything we needed.
My parents used a combination of credit, layaway programs and a savvy use of the money they did have to make our lives comfortable.
One area where our family struggled was with fashionable shoes.
|"Emil Zatopek running shoes by Adidas 1948" by Zac Allan|
We couldn't always afford the fashionable brands when I was a kid. When we needed shoes, we went to the discount store in Longview and bought the knock-offs called "Adios."
They had the same styles and colors, but they only had two stripes instead of Adidas' trademarked three-striped look. But man, I was proud of them and wore them out of the store.
When it was time for college, my parents just were not able to help. So, instead of enrolling for my first semester, I joined the Army National Guard.
|"Flickr - The U.S. Army - Drill Sergeant of the Yearby The U.S. Army|
I went to "drill" with the National Guard one weekend a month and worked two or three jobs to supplement my grants from the government to go to school.
I wasn't lazy.
I wasn't looking for a hand-out.
I didn't feel entitled.
I just needed a little help to move up the economic chain.
Most people want the same things I did.
Why don't they succeed?
1. Help people "think" they can — Some people don't "think" they can do succeed. For me, and many other Americans, there was never a doubt about the ability. If you work hard and get a little help (money, contacts or opportunity) most people can find a little piece of the American Dream. But for many, the ability to succeed sounds about as easy as taking a stroll on the moon.
2. Change starts with the mindset. It starts with a good education, of course. The great educator Horace Mann said, "A human being is not attaining his full heights until he is educated." We have to make sure kids have access to a great education, not just in elementary and high school but beyond. A little bit of money invested in a child's education, can save a truck load of money in prisons and other institutions of reform.
3. Empower dreams. Educating a child not just by filling minds with facts and figures but by empowering their mind to dream big dreams. We have to help them "believe" not only in the American Dream but dare to believe they can dream too.
Most people aren't lazy and looking for a hand-out, they really do just need a change in mindset.
The old NAACP commercial used to say, "A mind is a terrible thing to waste." I couldn't agree more. But something more important than not wasting a mind, is having faith and hope that all of us can do what we want to do. We may not find a silver spoon but we can find a slice of the American Dream.
Maybe it’s time to stop focusing on what and how we teach the Three R’s and instead, strap on our Adios shoes and start teaching a child to believe in themselves. Helping a child believe in the dream might help us say, "adios" to poverty.