This is really weird. Just a couple
of months ago, I wrote a newspaper column going on and on about how liberated I
was because I didn’t own a suit. And now here I am with my own subscription to
freakin’ GQ magazine. What a strange turn of events.
I have never really had a style to
call my own. I was one of those in-betweeners never really dressing up but not
quite dressing like the cross between a shadetree mechanic and a homeless
person either.
For a long time, dressing up to me
was wearing a sportscoat with my jeans and t-shirt. I have owned about six
suits in my entire life, never more than two at a time.
My first suit after college was a
gift from Aunt Jo. She took me over to a local men’s store, helped me pick out
a nice navy blue number, one crisp white dress shirt and a maroon silk tie. I
believe she even bought a pocket square to match the tie. It made quite an
impression for my first sales job interview. Unfortunately, my lack of sales
skills (or any skills at that point) did not leave a great impression and I did
not get the job. Fortunately for me, I did not leave a great first impression
because if I would have gotten that first sales job I would have sawed off my
hand and tried to go on disability after about six months. That was 1987.
Since then, I have worn various
degrees of dress up from suit and tie to sportscoat and tie to shirt and tie to
something called “business casual,” which is usually oversized, comfortable
chinos and a frumpy golf shirt (not POLO, but usually a golf shirt with a logo
from whatever company gave it to me). This was my style, at least at work.
On weekends, I was even more laid
back. T-shirts, jeans, or shorts were my go-to gear for going just about
anywhere. For some strange reason, I used to tuck my t-shirt into my jeans or
shorts for a more “formal” look. It turns out all that did was make me look
like a “formal” twit.
Then about ten years ago, I jumped
off the fashion train and jumped onto the much more comfortable fashion moped.
About two years ago, I gave up
completely. I tossed out my last remaining suit, all my polo shirts (with or
without company logos), my dress shoes (except one pair) and all of my slacks.
All that was left in my closet were t-shirts, a few party frocks and three
pairs of pre-washed, relaxed fit, boot-cut jeans. Oh, Jesus, was all of that
comfortable. In facet, I bet Jesus himself would have worn the exact same
outfits if he were around today. At least I used to think that.
Then the Summer of Change happened.
It became the summer of 2014 and I needed a change. I needed an upgrade. I
needed to do things differently.
Here are the four steps I followed
to look more stylish and fashionable:
Step 1: Do a quick Google search
for fashion blogs. I did and immediately found 2 million links to all kinds of
ladies’ fashion blogs. I refined my search for “men’s fashion blogs” and came
back with 4 million links to all kinds of men’s fashion blogs. Who knew that
many men were into fashion? I did not.
It was eye-opening. I learned a
ton.
For instance, I always thought that
for a man to be fashionable, he had to be uncomfortable. That, I discovered,
was not always the case. Many pairs of nice jeans, chinos, wool slacks, dress
shirts, fitted polos and shoes of all kinds could be both fashionable and
comfy. My God, I love the Summer of Change.
Step 2: Throw out your old shit. I
went through my closet and through out all of my old shit. Well, almost all my
old shit. I kept a few items to keep in the mix, but most of the old party
frocks, boot-cut jeans and 27 pounds of old t-shirts went to Goodwill. My wife
joined me in the fashion reboot and together we took about 10 garbage sacks
full of clothes to be recycled. It was liberating and scary as hell all at the
same time.
Step 3: Start shopping for a new
look. I tried to buy just the essentials at first. Here’s my list of
essentials:
1. Navy
or grey suit.
2. One
white dress shirt, one light blue dress shirt
3. Khaki
and navy blue dress slacks.
4. Navy
blue sports coat.
5. Brown
dress shoes.
6. Black
dress shoes.
7. Three
or four dress polo shirts
8. Three
or four nice white t-shirts (nothing in a bag).
9. A
dressy henly-collared shirt
10. A nice
grey sweatshirt.
11. A nice
pair of white tennis shoes sans logo
I think that’s it. I haven’t
purchased it all yet, but I’m slowly adding to it when it can. If you have
these essentials, I discovered, you can mix and match to come up with a variety
of outfits to wear to a variety of events, including events that might have
called for a party frock in the past.
Step 4: Wear the new style. Dress
up. Even if you feel slightly out of place, dress up. It’s amazing how much
more respect and attention you get if you dress up.
Of course, that doesn’t mean
wearing a navy blue suit with black cap toes to the beach, but it does mean
make sure to wear the best in beach attire when you do hit the beach.
The main thing I learned was that
things need to fit. For a man, that means trousers that are slimmer fitting
around your leg and just long enough to touch your trousers with maybe a break
about halfway up your shin. For shirts, they should hug your body, not too
tight but definitely not sagging around your mid section like a produce bag
full of broccoli.
A cheap suit can look expensive if it
fits right. And an expensive suit
can look cheap if it doesn’t fit right.
Find a tailor, get to know him and
let him know the style you are going for.
Why should you dress up? Three
reasons.
1. First
impressions — It makes all the difference in the world. Pay attention to
details — shoes shined, clothes with a perfect fit, pocket square, nice
watch, tie bar, all the little things.
2. Respect.
Dressing up makes you feel better and people around you treat you differently.
My good friend Deion Sanders famously says, “If you look good, you feel good.
If you feel good you play good. If you play good, they pay good.” And while I
don’t want to play cornerback for the Cowboys, I would like to get paid well.
(Call me Jerry Jones.).
3. Flexibility.
Dressing up means you are flexible to do other things. If you wear a suit to
work, you can take off the tie and throw on a nice polo or t-shirt with it to
go out for drinks afterward. Your employee may want to send somebody to see a
customer face-to-face. Who is she going to send, a guy with a well-tailored
suit or the “business casual” guy with the baggy chinos and the red IBM polo he
won at a trade show. Give me the suit guy any day.
Thank the good lord for the Summer
of Change.